Attachment Parenting HQ website is born out of my personal experience with pregnancy, miscarriage and high need child that needed all the attention. When I started attachment parenting concept by Dr. Sears, I felt alone as I did not know many parents who were supportive or know why we did certain parenting things differently. I wanted to create a site that can be beneficial to other parents who might be in same situation as I was. No, I am not expert by any means, but I have learned a lot and here I am sharing what I know to other parents so we can raise a good kids who will listen to us and have good habits and be a good human when he/she grows up (We can all wish!)
My Personal Story:
I am happily married women and stay at home mom of 2 children. We do attachment parenting with our kids such as extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping (same room, different beds), no crying out, and gently teaching both the kids discipline without punishment. The road has not been always easy, as none of our friends or relative follow our path. We seem sometimes odd ones as vegetarian, sling wearers and not letting children cry out.
It was not always like this, I was like rest of my friend before I had kids, I wanted my career as a manager to flourish further. I had already thought of nanny, school for my future child. When I first got pregnant, we were so happy, then unthinkable happened during 4th month of pregnancy, I lost my baby in miscarriage. I never knew that losing a unborn, unseen child would affect me this way but it did. I went through big depression and withdrawal from my life. With time, and support group I finally came to term in about 9 months after losing a unborn child.
When I got pregnant second time, I was scared but this time God had different plans for me. I had a healthy boy who is “high need” child. That meant, he wanted to me to carry him all the time, cried at top of his lungs until he got what he wanted, he was persistent little infant. He was not crying or cranky baby but he demanded our attention. I was at my wits end that is when I read doctor sears book that described what are high needs babies. It fit my child perfectly. We started following his cues and slowly things changes for all of us. We slept better, we felt better. And losing a child previously made me aware of how precious motherhood is. I am sure most of you agree that parenthood has many rewards and many challenges. With right solutions and tips we all can raise a good kids.
I have another child now after having 2 more miscarriages, so it was tough. While I feel lukcy to have 2 busy, healthy kids, parenting can leave you tired as mother we get sometimes paid in hugs and kisses and sometimes in tamper tantrum. I have realized my both kids are have different temperament and second child is not as high need child like my first one, but they both keep me on my toes and at wits end.
Sometimes they make me proud and other times, I want to just relax and have an adult conversation for once. I share many of my learned wisdom and failures along with gained knowledge of parenthood. We as a parent can use all the help and support for raising good kids.
